Working on the shows that I do I often hear guests and podcasters alike talking about fear. Face your fear, challenge your fear, punch it in the face, etc (ok maybe not that last one but you get the idea).
But why should we bother? It's really that important to face your fear?
No. Not if you want what you have today to be what you have tomorrow, and the day after, and the month after, and the year after and the decade after. If you're ok with today being the rest of your life then there's no need to face your fear.
But if you want to change things up, throw a little wrench into your monkey business then yep you've gotta have a sit-down with fear, a little meet and greet if you will.
When you do remember this: facing your fear isn't about never hearing from it again. Oh no! Your fears will come back. They're like that ex you can't get to go away permanently or those Facebook ads that follow your every move online: they're just there and always will be.
The sooner you know this and make peace with it, the easier your fear-facing process is going to be.
I'm writing about this because I used to think that if I just made one more cold call (I was building a network marketing business at the time), talked to one more stranger (I'm quite introverted) and went on just one more date (as of writing this I've been single for quite awhile), my fears would go away.
Well news flash kids: they never did. They're still with me today, my side companions through life.
But they have gotten quieter. Now why that is I'm not exactly sure but it could boil down to a few things: the first could be that I've faced my fears over and over again. Or it's the fact that I have more evidence to quash them with. Or it could be a combination of both...or something else entirely.
I don't really know and frankly, I don't care. I've made peace with fear being part of life and today I'm learning to embrace it. In fact, I'm beginning to know what it means to make fear a regular part of my life. I'm learning to let my inner warrior queen out and giving her more obstacles to face, she likes it and she wants it. She's gearing up for a webinar on show notes later in April, and damn she's excited for the challenge! The rest of me on the other hand, is quite nervous.
And that's why I'm writing this post: I know fear and I feel it.
Whether or not you get to that same place is up to you. It really is. No one has to answer for your life except you. Not your parents, not your friends, not your SO, not your boss (if you have one) and not your barista. (I just threw that last one in there to see if you were still paying attention, you are!).
It's all up to you.